Communicate clearly, make sure they understand you
Avoid yelling/screaming
Do not repeat yourself more than one time
Provide plenty of praise for good behavior
Reward good behavior immediately
Do not make too many requests at once
Do not try to correct every behavior, address only the most important
Be consistent (between caregivers and within yourself)
Follow through with giving consequences (no empty threats)
Give feedback on behavior during planning conversation times (when no one is stressed)
Be flexible to a degree (don’t change rules, but bend them when appropriate and provide a rationale)
Do not say mean, hurtful things
Be a good example (“Do as I say, not as I do” Does not work)
Be a good listener (make sure you understand, don’t be critical, avoid talking over the talker)
Provide opportunities for safe discussion (assure a nonjudgemental stance)
Plan fun activities
Monitor use of electronics and social media respectfully (no snooping or hacking-have open conversations)

Find a way to monitor how you are doing (via report card, therapist, child feedback, ask relatives or friends)