I am bothered by…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

I am grateful for… ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

I am sorry that I…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

I hope we will work on…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

*The more thoughtful and transparent each person is regarding each question the more impactful this will be. It will hopefully provide cathartic release of tension/resentment, address any false assumptions/misunderstandings, increase empathy and respect, and strengthen the committment to develop the relationship. It could take several conversations to fully communicate one’s thoughts/feelings and acheive mutual understanding.

* It is important to speak with a calm tone and to avoid inflammatory language, and to listen in a non-defensive, curious, and compassionate manner. This conversation can occur as often as it is needed.